Why is Working with Exiles Important?
In the Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, "Exiles" are parts of ourselves that hold the pain and trauma from our past. They are often hidden deep inside because they carry difficult emotions.
Working with Exiles is important because by acknowledging and healing these Exiles, we can address the root cause of many of our present-day struggles, like anxiety, depression, or self-esteem challenges. Interacting with Exiles helps us understand our past, accept it, and grow from it. We can learn valuable insights about ourselves, our coping mechanisms, and our responses to stress. Healing them can lead to healing trauma, personal growth, and emotional regulation, fostering a sense of internal harmony and self-compassion.
However, it's also sensitive and delicate because they carry painful memories, strong emotions and traumas. We need to approach them gently and carefully to ensure we don't cause more harm. If we try to access these Exiles too quickly or without getting permission from Protectors, the protectors may feel bypassed which can cause them to react strongly and even become more protective.
So, it's essential to approach Exiles slowly and respectfully, engaging with Protectors first, and gaining their trust and permission to ensure a safe and effective therapeutic process. We will guide you through this process in a supported and safe container.
Working with Exiles is important because by acknowledging and healing these Exiles, we can address the root cause of many of our present-day struggles, like anxiety, depression, or self-esteem challenges. Interacting with Exiles helps us understand our past, accept it, and grow from it. We can learn valuable insights about ourselves, our coping mechanisms, and our responses to stress. Healing them can lead to healing trauma, personal growth, and emotional regulation, fostering a sense of internal harmony and self-compassion.
However, it's also sensitive and delicate because they carry painful memories, strong emotions and traumas. We need to approach them gently and carefully to ensure we don't cause more harm. If we try to access these Exiles too quickly or without getting permission from Protectors, the protectors may feel bypassed which can cause them to react strongly and even become more protective.
So, it's essential to approach Exiles slowly and respectfully, engaging with Protectors first, and gaining their trust and permission to ensure a safe and effective therapeutic process. We will guide you through this process in a supported and safe container.
What is included?
★ 3 Days (7+ hours) of live interactive video calls led by Professionally Trained Experienced IFS Practitioners!
★ Interactive presentations to learn how to approach you Exiles using IFS and how to adapt them to your own life circumstances
★ Custom-made IFS resources & tools shared with you after every session
★ Live Demo led by L3 certified IFS Practitioner
★ Practice sessions to learn how to apply all the principles on your own
★ Sharing circles so you can meet and engage with other courageous souls in their self-healing journey
This Challenge is highly experiential, short teaching pieces will go through some of the concepts needed to embark in the exercises.
All exercises are designed to guide you in exploring your own system.
The space in between calls will be held in a Private Community where everyone will have the opportunity to receive support, be heard, and receive resources to work through in between calls.
★ Interactive presentations to learn how to approach you Exiles using IFS and how to adapt them to your own life circumstances
★ Custom-made IFS resources & tools shared with you after every session
★ Live Demo led by L3 certified IFS Practitioner
★ Practice sessions to learn how to apply all the principles on your own
★ Sharing circles so you can meet and engage with other courageous souls in their self-healing journey
This Challenge is highly experiential, short teaching pieces will go through some of the concepts needed to embark in the exercises.
All exercises are designed to guide you in exploring your own system.
The space in between calls will be held in a Private Community where everyone will have the opportunity to receive support, be heard, and receive resources to work through in between calls.
Module 1: Approaching Exiles
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Module 2: Getting in touch with Exiles
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Module 3: Being with Exiles
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Date & Timing
TO BE ANNOUNCED!
TO BE ANNOUNCED!
Who is this course for?
Anyone who has:
- Finished IFS Challenge - Chapter 1 (Click to Learn More)
- Deep understanding and knowledge of working with your own Protectors
Everyone's journey is unique and these are general guidelines:
If you do have a therapist or IFS Practitioner you can have these discussions with them to ensure you're ready to work with your Exiles.
- Stability: You should be in a reasonably stable emotional and mental state. This includes having effective ways to cope with everyday stressors and not currently being in a major crisis.
- Safety with Protectors: You should have learned how to establish a trusting relationship with your Protectors, the parts of you that help safeguard the Exiles. This involves understanding their roles, appreciating their efforts, and gaining their trust to access the Exiles. We teach this in our IFS Challenge Ch. 1 (Click to Learn More).
- Inner Guidance: Having a very deep understanding and knowledge of working with your own system of protectors using the IFS methodology. Honor, appreciate, and understand your Protectors. We teach this in our IFS Challenge Ch. 1 (Click to Learn More).
- Capacity to Self-Soothe: You should be able to comfort and calm yourself. Working with Exiles can bring up intense emotions, and it's important to be able to return to a Self-led state.
- Willingness: Lastly, you should feel ready and willing to understand and potentially engage with your Exiles.
If you do have a therapist or IFS Practitioner you can have these discussions with them to ensure you're ready to work with your Exiles.
About the Instructors
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Sasha Eslami
Sasha is a professionally trained IFS Practitioner with over 1000 hours of training. He has finished the final level of official IFS therapy training (level 3) with the founder of IFS, Richard Schwartz. He has done hundreds of hours of 1-1 IFS Sessions with clients all over the globe. Blanca Dasi Blanca is a Certified Level 3 IFS Practitioner, brings a wealth of experience in managing complex and extreme systems. Trained personally by Richard Schwartz, the founder of IFS, Blanca seamlessly integrates this methodology into her spiritual practices. Proficient in both Spanish and English, she communicates effectively across diverse cultural spectrums. |
Cost
Our mission is to make IFS more affordable and accessible to all people. We encourage you to invite a friend, family, or significant other to join you on your journey with IFS! The more people around us know about IFS, parts, & Self, the easier we can navigate our journey to Self-healing.
All 3 Weeks for : $199 - 1 PERSON |
All 3 Weeks for : $350 - 2 PEOPLE |
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Frequently Asked Questions
How/Where is the course held?
This course will be held via Zoom video call service for the live calls and a Private Community for support and non-live communication. You will receive the link to the meeting, as well as relevant materials, through email in addition to the Private Community prior/after the calls.
What happens if I miss a Live Call?
Only by attending all of the live calls will you be able to get the full benefit of this challenge. During some exercises you will be paired up with 1 or 2 other people into a breakout room, where you get to practice with another person. That is why, we recommend that you make a commitment to yourself to attend all of them. We also understand that life happens, and if you miss a call you are welcome to do the practices on your own and/or with a practice buddy. All recordings will be shared through the Private Community so you can watch them in your own time if you happen to miss a call or even rewatch them later.
What materials do I need in order to participate?
You will need to download the free Zoom software for our live calls, whether that is on your phone, tablet or laptop. We also recommend having a quiet space free from distractions during the live calls. A notebook or any other way of self-expression will be useful but not required.
Do I need to have any experience of any sort?
It requires a very deep understanding and knowledge of working with your own Protectors. We will NOT cover the basics of IFS or how to work with your protective system - we teach this in the IFS Challenge Ch.1 (Click to Learn More).
We will focus on the safety and process of approaching you own Exiles and you will not be able to get there unless there is already a trusted relationship built with your own Protectors.
Will there be new content every day?
Each live call will go through new concepts and exercises. After the call we will send you resources for self-practice focused on those concepts.
What if I need support outside the live calls?
You will be able to find a practice buddy within the members of the challenge for support and accountability. We are also happy to help outside of the live calls through our Private Community. You may also book one-on-one sessions with any of our instructors at extra cost for extra support.
Is there a community of people that I can connect with around this work?
So far, our IFS Guide App has the biggest community of people doing this work on their own. You can easily join it for free by downloading our app.
Does this challenge welcome spiritual or religious individuals?
Yes, this is an inner journey that welcomes any individual regardless of spiritual and religious orientation. The developer of IFS views it as a psycho-spiritual model and provides tools to address spirituality through IFS.
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Disclaimers
- All instructors are L3 trained and certified by the IFS Institute as IFS Practitioners (and you can see their certificate of completion of IFS professional training levels here). However this challenge is not connected to the IFS Institute in any shape or form.
- You will NOT be learning the IFS process to guide someone else, but to guide yourself.
- Material in this challenge is meant to give a deeper understanding of IFS and being able to apply IFS methodologies to your daily life to a good extent. During this challenge we focus on how to approach Exiles on your own, and we do not grant that your Protective system will allow you to fully work with your Exiles. Please honor and listen to your Protectors.
- This challenge is not therapy nor a substitute for therapy. If you are deeply struggling and need therapy, please consult a licensed therapist.
* Refund Policy *
All participants are eligible for a full refund of the IFS Challenge fee if the request is made within 24 hours of purchase, provided that the Challenge has not started yet. Once the Challenge has started, a full refund is no longer possible, irrespective of whether the participants have accessed course materials or participated in the course.
To request a refund, participants need to email our support team, providing their full name, the email address used for course registration, a copy of the purchase receipt, and a clear reason for their request for a refund.
All requests for refunds will be processed within 14 business days from the day the request is received. Refunds will be processed using the original mode of payment.
By agreeing to this policy, we can continue providing high-quality content that respects the needs of our community.
By purchasing and accessing the course, you indicate your agreement with this refund policy.